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Joy Marilie- Conscious and Creative Connections
Добавлен 19 фев 2014
Hey! My name is Joy Marilie. I'm a conscious parent, educator and homeschooling mama, hoping to help people reimagine the adult-child relationship, by analyzing and breaking generational cycles in parenting and developing and understanding of child development.
This channel has evolved over the years. My old content is archived in various playlists! Enjoy!
This channel has evolved over the years. My old content is archived in various playlists! Enjoy!
Performative Compliance
Here's an example of how I handled a situation when my daughter was displaying an undesirable behavior on X-mas day. This is how conscious parenting looks in action.
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We Can Not Control Kids!
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This is a hard spill to swallow, but when you lean into collaborative relationships with kids, instead of controlling ones, we get better results than the ones we think we will accomplish through control. This mindset adjustment is one the keys to parenting consciously.
Self Discipline
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Here's an example of what discipline looks like with Conscious parenting.
Consistent Boundaries
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You have to know your child and the safety limitations of your environment. Also, It doesn’t look this pretty in the beginning. There are tears. And you may need to add, “it’s time to go. I’m walking. Do you want to walk by yourself or do You want me to carry you?” You may need a fun transition to the car, like a race. I DO NOT bribe, saying I’ll give you candy if you come, however. But saying ...
Training vs Learning
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I’ve learned to use potty learning instead of training. It just made sense for the process. When I saw signs for readiness, I provided the environment to normalize it and it happened on its on time. She was fearful of pooping in the potty for quite a while even though she’d go to pee independently. We needed pull ups over night, until we didn’t. It happened on its own time. We just trusted the ...
Power of Reflection
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This is a quote from a wonderful book, "Parenting From the Inside Out" By Daniel J Siegel and Mary Hartzell. I highly recommend it. Check out my free and premium course content below: www.joymarilie.com/courses-1 #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #gentleparentingtips #gentleparenting #blackmomblogger #blackmothers #blackmotherhood #blackparenting #parentingtips #consciousndiscipline
Teaching vs. Punishment
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Hope this example is helpful Check out my free and premium course content here below: www.joymarilie.com/courses-1 #consciousparenting #respectfulparenting #gentleparentingtips #gentleparenting #blackmomblogger #blackmothers #blackmotherhood #blackparenting #parentingtips #consciousnessdiscipline
Homeschool = No Socialization?
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This is not at all a judgement against anyone who chooses to send their kid to public school, or has no choice. I am highlighting the unevaluated concern folks have about homeschoolers, without looking at the realities of socialization opportunities in schools. Most folks who have questioned my daughters ability to socialize upon learning about our choice to homeschool, would immediately reprim...
Productive Struggle
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When we step in too soon to prevent our children from experiencing frustration, and to give them a sense of immediate gratification, we are actually getting in the way of real learning, the true joy that they experience from a productive struggle. It might feel like you’re helping, but helping them to do what exactly? What’s the end game? “Help me to help myself” approach is a Montessori quote,...
Addressing the Root Cause of Children's Behavior
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Addressing the Root Cause of Children's Behavior
Jackson Crew Home Improvement - Motorized Shades
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Jackson Crew Home Improvement - Motorized Shades
I came for Locs and you made me cry.. 💜💜💜
Glad I found this video. Thanks
Ms.Jackson i love you girl its bin since second grade im maxinne
Cute love it Queen
This video was way to long lol but your hair is beautiful
I like it down to
It looks beautiful. You've sold me on Wrap a Loc
You inspired me to attempt on myself - and hope for the best. Need more pipe cleaners tutorials please .
If you don't want super tight curls, try doing two locs together. I use to do 1 loc and the curls were tighter, but when I do two, the curls are looser (but still tight and neat).
Still gorgeous!!!! Hopefully my loctician can come close to this style for me
Thx so much… I am new to wrap n loc products… I have sisterlocs my hair is about the same length as yours. I’ve been using pipe cleaners I can’t wait to purchase some wrap n loc products… Your hair is gorgeous… The tutorial was extremely informative. I don’t think I’ll have a problem applying my wrap n loc tools…
Hi Miss Jackson, it’s me Maxinne😊
Looool he's like joy joy lol
For many, homeschool does create socially delayed students. It took me many years to recover social skills from only doing homeschool for high school. During projects and learning in public school u constantly socialize and it helps
Love it
Wow!!!! I just learn everything I need to know to have beautiful curls in one video !!!! Saving this!!!🥰. Thank you!
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Hi there Joy, its your fanbase here ☺ thank you so much for sharing💯❤ 🇿🇦
My absolute pleasure! = )
Omg! As a former single mother of 5, I understand this to my bones!
My does the same thing
You explain things in such a clear and concise way. Thank you so much, this is so helpful
also, the fact that weird and unusual people can just be autistic people. so, this idea of not wanting to homeschool your children I don't know the argument just sounds a little ableist.
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Haha so true
As a mom of 4 and as an educator I will say this answer is WAY too narrow. Children must be taught obedience to parents hands down. But to teachers and other authority figures, they must be taught subjective obedience. When I call my child's name or tell him to stop, it may very well be the difference between life and death (i.e. crossing the street, child touching a dangerous object, etc.). As parents, we also have to reach the child to understand what kind of instructions NOT to obey from teachers and other authority figures (i.e. good touch/bad touch, unreasonable or questionable situations). Other than that, a child should obey authority figures and should not be defiant for frivolous reasons. It's distracting and just plain disrespectful in a school environment.
This perspective is not a casual one. In addition to being a parent, I’m also an educator 14 years in the classroom. 8 in leadership and consulting. Obedience is about power and submission for the benefit of adults. For their convenience. Is does very little to benefit the child. Working in schools where obedience and submission to authority or face punitive consequences for something as little as looking in the wrong direction when told to track the speaker, did nothing but create soldiers who lacked common sense or the ability to make rational decisions about much of anything if they weren’t directly told. Obedience eliminates the necessity for critical thinking. Most people who think children are bad for not taking orders like soldiers lack fundamental education in child development. As is the case in all “no excuses” charter schools. They don’t have the goal of developing an adult citizenry that has common sense, can critically think and challenge the oppression created by authority figures including exploitative employers. It trains them to accept it as normal. It trains them to accept the status quo. Submission to authority has done nothing for black and Brown working class and poor people. The schools/ parents that encourage cooperation, collaboration, mutual respect not just respect upwards, educate and raise the future leaders and employers of the “obedient”. Children can listen and be respectful without obedience. They will do so willingly when they feel respected and are taught the skills and rationale for why socially acceptable behaviors benefit them and the group. When their learning is relevant and engaging they comply willingly. If they still struggle there is likely a reason caused by challenges at home, learning deficits, or an unskilled teacher. The random bad kid that just doesn’t listen with no explanation is a fantasy of folks who don’t want to do the work of understanding child development or that child as an individual or that lack the skills of knowledgeable skilled teachers. This is not about obedience vs chaos because there’s a lot in between. I’ve primarily worked in severely under resourced communities but consult in more affluent communities in recent years as well. when compared to the mindset of the institutions who know they’re not training the next generation of docile worker bees, the approach is night and day. It is more work for all adults, but what is the ultimate goal? Critical thinking, the opportunity to ask why, in respectful ways, building skills that leads to more autonomy in the classroom, in age appropriate ways, leads to a willingly cooperative student population because they don’t feel the need to constantly battle their oppression or combat the constant disrespect. They cooperate because they want to. Not because they’re told to. I train people in decolonizing their classrooms. I stand firm on having a productive, respectful, classroom without obedience. I’m willing to put the work in for the long term benefit of all students I serve. As to safety… my response to this common response is here. instagram.com/reel/ClEVJtjOPRN/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
Children always ask "why"- we can no longer use the traditional "because I said so" response. Questioning why opens the door for critical thinking at an early age.
Absolutely agree!
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Whoo this is so good.
yes yes and yes! thank you for this! its so so so so important and it drives me insane how even though super obvious almost nobody gets this!
I love this 😊
Amen to learning discernment early.
Joy these videos are priceless. Thank you for creating them. Although I don't have young kids anymore I will pass them on to them for my grand children.
Great observation. At least in my area the public libraries have homeschooler group activities they host.... just incase people want the changce to meet someone new.
I was going to do the same vid. Lol!
EXACTLY
Definitely team up and down the slide, especially after hearing a playground designer speak and say that is what they intended them for. But yes we definitely have parameters; only if there is no one trying to go down. It is hard hearing other parents give the straight " NO!" when I'm allowing my child to do it. Thank you for sharing!
I like this song coughing parts
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Love this, like I love all your content, right on point and I learn so much, so grateful to have found you!
Yes, so very true!!!!
Hi! 👋🏽 I follow you on TikTok and came over to RUclips because I am a conscious parent as well. We’ve also done a mix of homeschool and virtual school (now that she is older). I’m so happy to be here and I have long locs also so your older content is a bonus for me! 🎊 🎉
Yes they always wants us 2 be HUMBLE
Yess great conversation to start eye having been having this conversation with myself since my teen years 💚💛🖤❤️